First, I want to acknowledge most religions and Protestantism have ceremonies and customs that I do not enjoy. Communion and baptism are a couple.
But, these ceremonies, as far as I know, do not harm anyone. They do not play with peoples’ heads in any important way. I was given communion in a church last Easter and it was quickly over.
In my experience, the same is not true for the Catholic practice of annulling marriages. As I understand it, the practice pretends a marriage never took place.
An elderly friend, a devout Catholic, confided with me a couple of years ago his sadness. His female partner of several decades had died. He was excluded from the grieving family because they had not married.
They had not married because she was divorced and had not received annulment. “We would be living in sin according to our church.” he explained to me. I thought it pecular they did not consider living together without marriage a sin while while marrying without annulment was.
When we were younger, our friends included a Catholic couple who were full of energy and love for each other. They built a house themselves and had children.
Years later they divorced. To marry another Catholic man the wife had the first marriage annulled. Their children were appauled their parents were “unmarried” at the time of their birth and grappled for an explanation to give their own children.
Catholic annulment seems to me both bizarre and harmful.